Social networking sites like Facebook allows us to stay connected and up to date with all our friends in a historically unprecedented way, but this degree of transparency into everybody's lives can actually makes us feel more distant. There are two reasons for this.

The first one, which is more a technology issue, is that Facebook deliberately filters out your posts from people's feeds if they think that others don't care. They measure this by how many likes, comments and shares your posts gets. This is out of our controls. It's their website. But it is unfortunate because sometimes I check my friend's pages and realize they posted some really good thoughts on one occasion, but it never passed through my news feed due to this filtering. And they change how they do this filtering every few weeks so be warned if you share something that doesn't get any responses from your friends. You might have to tag them directly.

The second reason is a bit more of our own physical limitations.

We each have a caring capacity, a limit to how many different people we can pay attention to in a day. Because not all our friends know each other or get along, when it comes down to it, we only have time to meet with a handful of them in real life and on a regular basis. These inevitably become your 'inner circle', your 'clique', your 'closest friends'. They are the ones who you have chosen to spend your precious free time with and care for at an emotional level, which is often reflected on social networking sites as you interact with their content the most. And if you are a church-goer, very often that 'inner circle' will be just those in church because it is both a doctrinal imperative and a social convenience.

What about the others? Some of them are people who may not be as fortunate as you to have this 'clique' or are church goers. How much time do you invest in maintaining a real connection with them other than the interaction-less reading of their posts? For these individuals, they are the 'others' to all their friends, who all naturally assume they have other friends with whom they are closer with.

They see your photos, your to-ing and fro-ing with a regular few, the 50 likes whenever you change your profile pictures. They may have even commented on your posts. But that effort to share in your happiness is not reciprocated. They are the forever alone that 9gag loves referring to. They are real, more real than the artificiality sometimes added to photos to make them more artistic or happening than it really was. It is manufactured nostalgia.

If you are one of these who has or had experience feeling lonely on a site that says you have 600+ friends, I urge you to reduce your expectations that someone will eventually reach out to you on this digital platform. Some people you added as friends, aren't. Some don't care either ways. Facebook certainly doesn't and only seek to algorithmic-ally push the social butterflies onto the two-dimensional podium so that they become the epitome of success in life. Its measures social wealth with likes, comments and shares.

If you wish to escape this chasm of social network poverty, you may need to be the permanent giver in virtual friendships, always be the initiator in chats, instigators for group hangouts that wouldn't happen otherwise. And if you can't summon the enthusiasm to maintain this, then perhaps it's better to learn to be comfortable being alone and have a mild presence, or just avoid reading the News Feed which will just frustrate you even more because you are forming an unrealistic/unrealisable baseline of what the norm is. Learn to worry less about not having any interaction with people online, and focus more on your interactions offline.

Everyone has a caring capacity, including you.